Marital Bliss

Marital Bliss focuses on making couples live happily ever after. God never designed marriages to end up in divorce or dry cohabitation. Visit the page to find out about various Godly tips that will help make your marriage work.

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Communication

Communication is a very important aspect of marriage which we sometimes easily ignore. Some couples are able to spend time with, talk and listen to other people more than their spouses. This only weakens the bond in the marriage but strengthens the external bond with the other people. Communication creates a sense of unity and direction. The bible says in Amos 3:3 that two cannot walk together except they agree. Agreement on the other hand will only come when there is effective communication.

Effective communication involves active listening and speaking.  We are often tempted to speak more rather than to listen. The Bible admonishes us to be slow in speech and quick to listen. Sometimes, all it takes to make your spouse happy, loved and wanted is an uninterrupted time of active listening.

Trying to understand the other person’s feelings and needs as well as point of view is very important. People feel loved and wanted when they know that their spouses listen to and understand them. Demonstrate respect by giving your full attention. Put yourself in whatever situation your spouse finds themselves in and treat them as you would want to be treated.

We also need to be very careful of what we say to each other in anger. 1 Cor. 15:33 warns us that evil communications corrupt good manners. My focus here is “evil communication corrupts”. Any careless word can kill a potentially beautiful marriage. What we say in angry moments have the potential to negate all the hard work we have done over the years in the marriage. Learning to control our tongues in anger will save us a lot of unnecessary time spent in prayer trying to undo what we have said to each other in anger. The bible says in Proverbs 18:21 that death and life are in the power of the tongue and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof. There have been instances when couples have invoked curses upon their spouses and even upon their children in anger. Funny enough, they forget these statements when their anger subsides only to see the devil have a field day in the family’s finances, health and other areas. We are expected as Christians to be able to control our tongues. A Christian’s tongue is not for cursing, insulting or speaking unacceptable words in anger. Do not forget; the Lord will judge every careless word we speak.

Words are powerful and how we communicate to each other is very important. God bless you.

By Pastors Derek & Selly