New Love: This is where a woman feels that the love her husband used to show her has dwindled. The excitement then is rekindled when another man begins to give her that needed attention even to the extent that sex outside the marriage looks OK. As ahusband, you must find time to revisit some of the places and things you used to do before marriage. Make your marriage more exciting than your courtship time!
New Sex: Men are tempted by new sex. This is where a man thinks “Wouldn’t it be fun if I did it with this one too? See how she looks!” Men want to expand their dominance and try new territories. As a wife, you must keep doing all the beautiful things that attracted the man to marry you. Keep in shape and spice up your sex life. Initiate sex and try new and exciting things. Tempt him! He’s your husband! Don’t forget that someone else is waiting out there to give in to his desires! Do not see romance and sex as a marital duty. It will only get worse and worse because sex as a chore is the most boring and difficult chore in any home. Incorporate it into every aspect of the marriage. Let your conversations be full of it. Play with it! Play into it! Enjoy it! Please note that this will not work unless the marriage is based on friendship.
Appreciation: Where a man or woman does not feel appreciated or cherished in their marriage, they are likely to fall for the few kind words that another person may offer. Don’t tear your marriage apart with wicked words! Your spouse is the best you deserve! Selfishness may only make you think that you deserve better only for you to lose what you already have and not get any better replacement. It’s a lie. You actually got your current spouse by grace. Love them, appreciate them. I have often seen a man leave his wife for another and then wonder if it was all worth it. It always seems to happen that the old was better than the new. Watch out and enjoy whatever you have now. It is your lot and you can make it to be what you want it to be.
Modern trends: Modern day culture and media - TV, magazines, films etc. all declare that it alright to have sex with anyone if it feels right. They make you feel like a fool for staying true with just one person. It’s a lie. It only leads to Hell here on earth and in the world hereafter.
SEX OUTSIDE MARRIAGE IS A SIN. AVOID IT!!!!!!!!!!
Enjoy Proverbs 5
1 My son, attend unto my wisdom, and bow thine ear to my understanding:
2 That thou mayest regard discretion, and that thy lips may keep knowledge.
3 For the lips of a strange woman drop as an honeycomb, and her mouth is smoother than oil:
4 But her end is bitter as wormwood, sharp as a two-edged sword.
5 Her feet go down to death; her steps take hold on hell.
6 Lest thou shouldest ponder the path of life, her ways are moveable, that thou canst not know them.
7 Hear me now therefore, O ye children, and depart not from the words of my mouth.
8 Remove thy way far from her, and come not nigh the door of her house:
9 Lest thou give thine honour unto others, and thy years unto the cruel:
10 Lest strangers be filled with thy wealth; and thy labours be in the house of a stranger;
11 And thou mourn at the last, when thy flesh and thy body are consumed,
12 And say, How have I hated instruction, and my heart despised reproof;
13 And have not obeyed the voice of my teachers, nor inclined mine ear to them that instructed me!
14 I was almost in all evil in the midst of the congregation and assembly.
15 Drink waters out of thine own cistern, and running waters out of thine own well.
16 Let thy fountains be dispersed abroad, and rivers of waters in the streets.
17 Let them be only thine own, and not strangers with thee.
18 Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth.
19 Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love. 20 And why wilt thou, my son, be ravished with a strange woman, and embrace the bosom of a stranger?
21 For the ways of man are before the eyes of the LORD, and he pondereth all his goings.
22 His own iniquities shall take the wicked himself, and he shall be holden with the cords of his sins.
23 He shall die without instruction; and in the greatness of his folly he shall go astray.
God bless you and remember - WE LOVE YOU, STAY MARRIED!
