Every marriage begins with some sort of friendship which we generally call courtship. All courtships also begin with some sort of proposal. This therefore gives the idea that a proposal is the starting point of every marriage and family and hence must be taken very importantly. You could lose a potentially beautiful marriage as well as your peace of mind and even, your feeling of manliness if your proposal goes wrong. You can imagine how it feels if a woman turns down a man’s proposal.
There was this young and handsome University graduate who had everything a woman could wish for. Every sister in the church and at his work place was praying for his proposal. He was the dream husband of every woman. Let’s call this young man William. When everybody thought all was well with him, he thought otherwise. He spent lots of sleepless nights thinking of how he could put himself together to propose to this beautiful girl in his church whom we will call Betty. He had once attempted proposing to Linda, his course mate during his final year at the University and this was a total disaster. It’s actually the reason why he could not graduate with First Class Honours.
Even though proposal is the starting point of every marriage, it is a very controversial issue which if not well handled could prevent the realization of a potentially genuine love dream. To many, the word Proposal is very common and associated with the youth especially in these modern days when parents do not find suitors for their children.
According to the Collins Concise Dictionary, Proposal, is an act of proposing, a suggestion put forward for consideration, or an offer of marriage. Going by the third definition, the ultimate aim for proposing should be marriage. One must therefore be careful about whom, when, where and why they make every proposal. A lot of things should be taken into consideration before one embarks on this potentially eternal journey. Proposal is supposed to lead to marriage and not frustrations and broken hearts.
BEYOND LOOKING TO SEEING!
“The simple believeth every word: but the prudent man looketh well into his going.”
KJV Pro. 14:15
So many people today look without seeing. There is a difference between looking and seeing. God expects every child of his not only to look but also to see. When you look, you are hooked but when you see, you become! God wants to take you beyond the level of looking to the level of seeing.
The earlier quotation does not end by asking us to “Look” but to “Look well”. The “Look well” aspect is the realm of “Seeing”. There are many factors that should be considered before proposing or accepting a proposal. Some of these are spiritual compatibility, educational background, race and tribe, financial position, social status, political orientation, personal hygiene and future aspirations.
We will take each each point and discuss them in detail in the next issue but till then, keep living a holy life for God.
